December 31, 2021 (Post #65)
(From Journal #9: August 2, 2007)
I watched a teaching this morning on 1 Peter 3: Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
As he talked about the part where women should be more than their outer adornment, I believe the Holy Spirit gave me revelation about myself (and probably most women) on the whole “weight and beauty” thing. I’ve got some extra pounds I’ve been wanting to lose, and yet haven’t, so I get into self-loathing and speak negative words over myself. And the truth is, if I did lose them, I still probably wouldn’t be “happy” with myself. Why is this? It’s because most of us women are looking for validation of our value, worth, and desirability based on appearance and weight, and from the wrong sources, including our husbands.
While I know it’s not wrong for wives to want our husbands to find us attractive and affirm us, they can never give us what we need, and it’s wrong of us to put that burden on them or anyone else. If we give anyone other than You the “power” with their words or actions to determine how we see ourselves, that is sin. We’ve made them an idol and given them first place in our lives. At the root are fear and pride. Fear that we’re not good enough; fear of rejection, fear of aging, FEAR, FEAR, FEAR. And it’s so prideful to be self-focused all the time.
So, what’s the answer? YOU! Only You can give us true affirmation of our worth. You created us in Your image. You love and value us so much that You died for us! These bodies we are so quick to despise and criticize are the Temple where the Holy Spirit dwells in every believer. Help me Lord to honor You by how I see my body and take care of it. I want to be in the best shape possible as an act of worship to You, and not from a place of low self-esteem, vanity, and self-absorption. True beauty comes from the confidence that can only be projected by someone who knows who they are in Christ Jesus.
There’s always going to be wrinkles, gray hair, weight gain, shrinking stature, etc., with our natural, aging bodies. It’s the inner man, our spirits, that never grow old.
(Genesis 1:27): So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
(Psalm 139:13-14): For You formed my inward parts; You knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…
(1 Corinthians 6:19-20): Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, Who is in you, Whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.
(2 Timothy: 1:7): For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.